Boundaries in dating by henry cloud
Boundaries in dating by henry cloud - seniorsdatingagency com
It’s true – I used to live like my only option was whatever guy I was seeing at the time and it was more important to be in a relationship and pursue this feeling of love and validation that I was looking for, than it was to be in a quality relationship.
I also liked that the authors addressed respect and disrespect thoroughly, as how we treat one another, confront one another, value one another’s experiences, and listen to one another’s opinions are key to any healthy relationship.by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, I jumped at the opportunity, hoping to be both challenged and affirmed. And I finished the book with confirmation that I’m on the right track.After all, I’m always game to glean additional information about healthy dating relationships for my future. But, to be honest, I also struggled to connect at times. I even wanted to throw the book out the window at one point, but hunkered down and kept on reading. Here’s the deal: Dating is a topic on which I have a whole lot of head knowledge, but no real practical experience.I craved love, intensely sought out validation, and privately lived with a black cloud over my head while I outwardly smiled at everyone.When I became ill with the immune system sarcoidosis in 2003, I was so distracted by the ‘guy with a girlfriend’ that even though I should have been focusing on my health, I was more interested on focusing on him as my only option! This is how I ended up in a number of half hearted relationships and yawning my way through many dates.Cloud and Townsend speak to the most common relationship challenges, provide responsible advice, and encourage good parameters that we need for all relationships, romantic or otherwise.
Simply put, my fellow Christian singles, let’s learn all we can and figure out this healthy dating stuff now so that we too will be able to start marriage right…even if it takes some struggling and wrestling, a few tears, maybe a few years, and perhaps even some book tossing and retrieving!
Cloud and Townsend also discuss sexual boundaries, conflict, risk, romance, unresolved family problems and their impact on dating relationships, and other essential topics.
“Dating right side up,” an exhortation to fit our dating life into our spiritual life (not vice versa) was another highlight for me.
” An additional source of encouragement to me, personally, was that this book wasn’t written by twenty-two year olds, and it wasn’t written by authors who married at twenty two either. Dating is simply different in post-college adulthood, and, overall, the topics addressed in are geared toward adults, not the high school and college demographic. Cloud and Townsend married their wives well into their thirties and, therefore, had to navigate dating throughout their twenties and early thirties themselves.
Their personal experience of being “older” Christian singles brings a perspective sorely needed to the Dating & Marriage section of our local Christian bookstores.
I’d recommend to Christians who are actively dating, grappling with what they believe about dating, or have had dating issues in the past.